Should I go to counselling?
Counselling in Hornchurch, Romford, Elm Park, Gidea park. hfcounselling.co.uk
Should I go to counselling?
“Don't be ashamed of needing help. You have a duty to fulfil just like a soldier on the wall of battle. So what if you are injured and can't climb up without another soldier's help?” Marcus Aurellius. Roman Emperor.
From the above quote it highlights that we have a duty to fulfil. That duty is to live our life to the best of our ability, taking/creating opportunities that can lead to our happiness. But what if we’re depressed, anxious or bereaved and can’t make the most of these opportunities, what then? What if you can't go on without a foothold up? Is that it? You're destined to feel this way forever? No. There is a choice.
Ask for help.
Asking for help is helping yourself.
You're taking accountability for your position and productively putting an action plan in place.
There are tough situations that are better to deal with when we have support. Going through our trauma, dark feelings and current problems can release that emotional tension and help us to actively plot a route that can help things be better.
Counselling can be used as a tool, a strategy, a way to improve your life. Don’t wait until things get worse, use it as a preventative measure.
Here are some direct points about my view/experience of counselling. If you feel you are suffering alone and don’t know what to do, reach out. Please call/email to find out more about counselling.
Why counselling works.
Verbalising your thoughts and feelings openly without fear of judgement is a psychologically altering process. You may talk of things that you have spoken about with no one. This process alone can reduce your feelings of isolation and free up mental capacity to apply a problem solving action taking approach to your problems.
New perspective. When verbalised, the emotion is felt and thought about it can be viewed differently. You can question your beliefs about yourself and shine light on untapped inner resources that you have not been using or using negatively.
You can accept and forgive yourself. We often look at things in hindsight and put ourselves down. It's good to remember that we were a different person then and worked on the information we had at the time. Or simply, we made a mistake.
Go into dark thoughts that you can't with friends, partners, family members. Don’t feel as isolated and trapped with these thoughts. Look into our little secret behaviours that we do to distract us from the pain.
Our friends and family assure us it will be okay. Want to save us. Want us to be happy. Tell us we were being silly. Need to move on and get over it. We’re compared to other people's bad situations. It just isolates us further and makes us feel worse. Counselling will allow you to fully go into this stuff.
Working with someone outside your world so you can say what you truly feel.
Counselling is a unique relationship. Space is available to be truly heard instead of being involved in surface level conversations where people are waiting for their turn to speak.
Questions to think about.
Are you happy going on this way?
Will you regret not taking this opportunity in the future?
What is stopping you?
What is at stake?
You don’t have to feel this way. You deserve to be happy.
All the best,
Hugh
I’m an integrative Counsellor serving the areas of Hornchurch, Romford, Elm Park and Gidea park. Available face to face, online, phone and park walk sessions.
